Divorce is a dirty word in our society, even with the thousands of people who get a divorce in this country every year. Although divorce can be a good or bad thing, depending on your position, the truth is that there are many misconceptions about this common practice.
Here are some myth busters to think about when considering divorce:
· “More men file for divorce than women.” – This is actually false. In America, more than two thirds of divorces are filed by women. Studies show that in divorce cases more men typically have problems that are easily proven, and that women are usually the parent in which the court decides to give custody of the children to
· “Children involved in divorce cases have a stronger chance of recovery with their single parent plus a step parent.” – Although it may be thought that children are more likely to do better with two parents, there is no evidence to support this claim. Step parents often lead to internal family problems, that are hard for all members to deal with
· “Because divorce is such a traumatic experience, second marriages generally have lower divorce rates.” – Unfortunately this is not true. Although it seems logical that people would learn from their mistakes, in reality second marriages have a higher divorce rate. Researchers believe this is due to the fact that people involved in one divorce case do not always have a sense that marriage is a permanent situation, and therefore know how the process works, and take advantage of it
· “Have a kid will keep parents happier and make their relationship more permanent.” – This myth probably came about when this was more likely. In the past few years, this has actually become less common. Parenting can be the very stress that pushes the two parents apart.
· “Children are better off with divorced parents, rather than parents continually fight and do not get along.” – Children need their parents, and studies show that even if their parents fight, having both figures in their life can great affect the children in a positive way. Many parents use this as an excuse to justify their divorce.